A Post-Halloween Lesson

Like many parents after Halloween, all the candy makes us and our kids crazy. Therefore, we ration what our kids can eat, so we can keep our sanity. I also eat it both as a parent tax, and also to lessen the amount they have. I’m a good parent like that.

But, this week, I saw Hudson hoarding his candy in his backpack. He was squirreling it away like he knew I was eating it (which I was).

There was just piles of candy in his backpack.

And, I started thinking about all of his teachers having to deal with him on this massive sugar high with his backpack full of candy.

So, like “a good dad” I said:

“Hudson, what on earth are you doing? I told you, you can only bring two.”

Hudson promptly started to get upset, almost crying. But, I had caught him red-handed, and thought this was a time to talk about listening and not hiding things from your parents.

That is, until he started to explain…

Apparently, there is a boy in Hudson’s class who doesn’t celebrate Halloween. Therefore, he has no Halloween candy, and felt left out. Since Hudson wanted to change this, he promised to give him some of his candy – that he could pick out as much as he wanted from his stash.

So, Hudson was bringing in his candy to give to someone who had none. And, I was getting in the way of him being kind, which he promptly reminded me is one of our family rules.

I write all this to remind us that sometimes our snap judgments are just that – snap judgments.

And, even if you catch someone red-handed, hoarding candy, that may not be the whole story. What God taught me through this is what He is so often teaching me: To be patient and listen.

Or, as James 1:19 says:

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

And, this seems like such a simple point, but it’s one I so easily miss. Especially when I think my son is stealing Halloween candy.

So, what does this all mean?

It means we should work hard to be quick to listen and slow to speak, no matter what things look like. And, of course, if someone doesn’t have candy, you should share.

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3 comments on “A Post-Halloween Lesson

  1. Rob Janzen on

    Thanks Andrew for this reminder. As a parent and now a grandparent I’ve been here too many times. Still working on it 🙂

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  2. Wendy on

    It just proves that your parenting has made a significant impact on your son. We as parents jump to conclusions, and many times God uses our kids “by example” to remind us that sometimes we need to listen more and talk less!! Obviously your son has a compassionate heart, God bless him!!

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  3. Mary Marcoux on

    That’s a good lesson for me since I have been known to specialize in snap judgments!

    May the LORD help me to remember this!

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