Kids: Combating Shame, Part One

As Christian parents, I’m sure one of your goals is to raise children who can stand firm in a world that is surrounded by darkness. But it’s tough! Let’s face it. The world is, quite simply, not nice. People are lost, and lost people are raising kids. These kids are in your kids’ social circles. And sometimes this means they will act in a way that does not build up other children, including your children.

Your work is cut out for you.

We are here to help. This month’s Online Parenting Class video is about Combating Shame. If you think your child believes the lie that they are a failure, are not good enough, or are a “bad person,” don’t wait to intervene. Phrases you might hear sound like, “I’m no good at anything,” or “I’m such a bad girl.” One of the most important jobs you have as a parent is to be in tune to your kids’ emotions and to step in when something is awry.

Intently listen to where these false beliefs might be stemming from, and take appropriate steps to address those who might be speaking untruths to your child. Then, make sure to constantly and consistently “fight back” by lovingly teaching your child truth. Help them to understand that sometimes they might not choose the best behaviour, but that doesn’t mean they are a bad person.

We’re praying for you and trusting God is meeting you each day as you strive to “train up [your] child in the way he should go” (Psalm 22:6). Press on!