This month’s parenting video features a unique topic: Parenting Yourself so that you can be a better parent to your kids. Does it seem a little strange to receive information on how to parent yourself? The truth is, we never stop learning and growing, and sometimes parents need to be “parented” a little—especially because no parent was parented perfectly themselves.
Above all, it’s important to know that though you might sometimes fail as a parent, you have the perfect Father in heaven who has always been good to you. He loves you and fights for you, and has good plans for you. Consider just a few Scriptures that speak to this indescribable love:
A Father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing.
— Psalm 68:5-6)
O Lord you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are the work of your hands.
— Isaiah 64:8
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your Heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?
— Matthew 6:26
If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
— Matthew 7:11
In these four verses we learn some profound aspects of God the Father’s love. He defends those who are defenceless. If you came from a family where you were fatherless, God is not unaware. He is your Father, and He will defend you. God is also the potter, the One who is intimately aware of your life, your family, your struggles, and your joys. He is creating something beautiful in you and will use you for a profound purpose. God the Father is your provider. He cares for the birds—and how much more valuable are you than a bird! And finally, when you approach Him with your needs—for parenting, for provision, for protection—He will answer.
What is the lesson from these verses? Before you worry about how to parent your kids, seek the Father and allow Him to be your parent, your loving Father who provides, protects, plans, and gives generously. When you know God in this way, you will be better able to parent your child in a godly way that reflects the Father.
We sure hope this Online Parenting class has been helpful and thought provoking (Heb. 4:16). In the next email, I’ll offer some practical suggestions for how to “parent yourself.”