I know raising a teenager is hard work. Probably harder than you ever thought possible sometimes! And when some of you read the first email in this series (click link to read it again), you probably thought that finding a hobby that you could agree on with your teenager was next to impossible, let alone putting it into practice! But, I want to just encourage you not to quit trying!
You may have even asked your teenager what they thought about sharing a hobby with you, and all you got was the usual eye roll and grunt! But, can we just share with you what you have already accomplished by just asking them about it?
1. You have given them value! You have said, “I think you are interesting enough that I want to figure out how to spend time with you outside of our normal lives!”
2. You have let them know that, in our time-starved world, you choose them. You choose to invest money, time, and effort into their lives.
That’s big! And, all that is communicated because you simply asked them what they thought of the idea? Can you imagine what it says to them when you actually follow through and find a hobby that you can share together?! It could be a game changer in your relationship with your teenager!
One of the things that we love to study about Jesus is how He gave value to his disciples and followers by just spending time with them. He listened to their thoughts and knew what they loved. He cared about how they felt and what they knew.
Finding a hobby is not just about finding something fun that you and your teen can enjoy together. Rather it is about…
1. Getting to know this amazing individual that is growing into an adult, that one day will be your friend.
2. Allowing them to get to know you as an individual with tastes and dreams and wishes.
3. Giving them a safe place to put this crazy world aside for a few hours.
4. Telling them that you love them through actions, because we all know that our words don’t always make it past the cell phone they happen to be texting on.
5. Encouraging them to learn what they love and can be passionate about no matter the labels they may wear at school or even home.
6. Teaching them about God’s creative side through all the things He has put in this world for us to enjoy!
And we thought hobbies were just time wasters. Hobbies can actually be the memories that we make with our teens that they will always remember!
Walking with you!
The BYN Team